Understanding and Helping Women
By striving to understand women well and then help them in effective ways, they will have stronger relationships with you and help you in many ways.
By Leland E Pulley
In my opinion women are wonderful creatures. My experiences with various women have been positive. My grandmother, mother, wife, and daughters have been kind and helpful. We had many good activities together. Through other women I have shared experiences and been edified in the process. Yes, women really do complement men. What would we do without them.
Let us start with home life. I have been married for a few decades to my one and only wife. During this time some differences between us became apparent. No, I'm not talking about differences because I am a man and she is a woman. I am talking about differences between myself as an individual and my wife as an individual. Learning to deal with differences is one of the secrets of our successful marriage.
Over the years we have worked to improve our communication with one another. We have stressed teamwork and unity. In the process, I have learned to understand her better and meet her wants and needs more fully. I strive to do a lot of those little things and special things that she likes. Sometimes I will do something because she wants to do it. In marriage you must “give and take” or be flexible. You cannot always have your own way. Being willing to compromise and cooperate with each other helps us to enjoy life together and love each other more. After all these years, I still visualize her as my queen.
I believe almost all women want to be loved. They want to be respected and accepted for who they really are as an individual woman. Yes, they are a little bit more complicated than we men. But if we pay attention sufficiently, we can still see through the complications and understand them as they really are. We can figure out how they like to be treated. In fact, I would say that if men would treat women in respectful and appropriate ways on a consistent basis, they would be surprised just how much those women would be willing to do for them in return. I have experienced this reality with my wife. She has worked hard, gone without at times, and sacrificed not only for me but for our children. Despite changes in circumstances and situations, we have played our respective roles and always remained unified. I have respected and pleased her, and she has been a reliable support and helpmate for me.
In most marriages I have observed, the woman seems to be more flexible than the man. She will cooperate and share more easily. This is an integral part of her female self. So, men, do not be so proud and stupid to not recognize this. Do not take advantage of a woman to get what you want most of the time. Show as much interest in her as you want her to show in you. Do not be stubborn and expect her to always see things the way you do. By treating her in good ways, more wisdom will come out of her mouth. Her creativity will be more fully released, and this will benefit both of you. It is a win-win way to live together.
Pleasing women is not limited to the family. You met women in many ways. You can talk to them as neighbors, coworkers, members of clubs or organizations. In all these situations, we men get to interact with women. Be empathetic, open-minded, and sensitive to how they talk and think and feel. In the process, help them to enjoy and succeed and be happy. They in turn will do this for you. Men you can and should do this. Even a former mechanical engineer like me can understand this.
Remember women respond to how they are treated. If you treat them well, they will treat you better. Both of you will be rewarded in many ways.
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